Advice on Writing a Missionary

We have had a lot of inquiries about what is appropriate to write and send to a missionary - and we have discussed with our missionaries the types of things appropriate for them to share with family and loved ones in their weekly emails.

Below are lists of things to ask, write, and send. Some of these ideas may also spark other ideas. This is not a complete list.

We have noticed that when missionaries receive these types of uplifting emails from home, they are better able to focus on their purpose.

There are also some suggestions on what NOT to ask, write, or send. Remember, these are suggestions that we feel is in the best interest of your missionary. This is not a mandatory list - but ways in which we feel your missionary can keep in tune with the spirit.

You should also expect the same types of information in the emails and photos from your missionary.

Ask about their:

-  Work
- Schedule
- Investigators
- Missionary experiences
- Cultural experiences
- Who they are teaching (remember their names and follow-up about them in future correspondence)
- Ask frequently what he has learned from his Book of Blessings (we have added this title to their missionary handbook)
- Health and well-being

Write about:

- Important and uplifting things happening in your life
- Gospel related insights you've gained
- A scripture you found meaningful
- Things you are doing to help missionaries at home
- Blessings you've discovered through his service as a missionary
- A favorite conference talk and what it means to you
- Encourage your missionary to work hard in teaching the gospel
- Encourage your missionary to focus on his purpose
- Your testimony
- If your missionary receives a challenge (like read the Book of Mormon in 100 days), do it along with him and write of your experience

What to send:

- Basic toiletries
- Socks
- Photos (however, avoid photos that might make him homesick)
- Recipes for simple dishes
- Church photos

Do not ask, write, or send:

- How many baptisms have you had
- Something that will make them sad
- Don't discuss your personal problems or tales of woe
- Refrain from gossip
- Refrain from discussing challenges or difficulties you are experiencing
- Do not criticize your missionary
- Do not send large packages of stuff (your missionary has access to almost everything needed here) It also makes it difficult at transfer time to take more than is needed - so either he has to carry a lot of things, or he leaves it behind, which is usually the case. It becomes a waste of money for parents sometimes!
- Do not send things that would distract your missionary from his work (games, cards, gadgets, toys, etc)
- Avoid telling all about the fun vacation you took, or all the other fun things he is missing out on (this tends to make our missionaries homesick)
- Try to focus on the present - don't mention that in so many months you will be home, and all the plans you have for them (this projects them back home, and does disservice to your missionary).
- Refrain from passing along celebrity gossip, or information on sports teams (this takes focus away from their service) Help them keep focused on their purpose
- Don't discuss things that would cause them to worry


Hope this answers some questions!

We are so blessed to serve with your missionary!

I used to thank the missionaries for the service and "sacrifice" they've made to come on a mission....however, I've changed my attitude recently. I don't believe it is a sacrifice - I now thank them for the privilege we have to serve the Lord. It is indeed a great privilege and honor!

Let me know your thoughts! Our purpose is to guide and build your missionary to stand with a firm foundation in Christ. We have seen so many miracles, and your son is a part of this important work!

Best wishes!